Ask that question and everyone will have a different marriage:
“Marrying your best friend”
“Living life with your soulmate”
“Not being able to live without your partner”
We just finished the Love & Respect video series and cannot even begin to tell you how much we learned about marriage, relationships, men and women, and most importantly the role of God in our marriage.
As we all know, dealing with conflict in marriage is the 800 pound gorilla. When we are upset at our spouse, how do we deal with them? How do we not fly off the handle? In the moment of severe conflict, how do we stop and see the best in our spouse?
Wow – if we can figure that out then life would be pure bliss!
Well, as Christ followers, this Love & Respect series spelled it out oh so clearly:
Marriage is “Tool and a Test”. As Emerson Eggerich points out, “Jesus teaches us to do what we do as to Him (Matthew 25:31-30). Ephesians 5:22 tells wives to submit to their husbands ‘as to the Lord’. Ephesians 5:25 tells husbands to love their wives ‘just as Christ loved the church’. Paul, the apostle who wrote these books in the bible, is teaching husbands and wives that in marriage the true believer is always conscious of Christ. Ultimately, one loves or respects because of their love and reverence for Christ.”
Eggerich continues, “In the ultimate sense, your marriage has nothing to do with your spouse. It has everything to do with your relationship to Jesus Christ. You practice love or respect because beyond your spouse, you picture – with the eyes of faith – Jesus Christ standing there.”
This is so POWERFUL. We fall in love with our spouse, we feel like they are our soulmate, we would die for them, we want to grow old with them and enjoy all life has to offer with them. BUT – we LOVE or RESPECT them out of reverence for Christ. NOT out of reverence for your spouse.
At the end of life here on earth, as we seek entrance into eternal life, AKA heaven through the pearly gates, we believe the Lord will judge us. We know from the bible that He wants us to love and respect others. As we dig in further, we know He wants us to do this “as to the Lord”. And on Judgment Day, we want Him to say “Well done, good and faithful servant.”
If we can all try to remember this and put it into practice – which WE KNOW is SO much easier said than done – then life would be easier for everyone and for everyone’s marriage!
We are certainly going to try our hardest to live by these words. God bless you all and God bless your marriages!