Like it or not, counseling has a bit of a stigma to it.
Some believe that counseling is not necessary and we should be able to resolve our problems on our own or by using some other resource. This is an understandable opinion. Some would rather reach out to close friends, their church, read expert books together, or watch marriage videos rather than bring a stranger into the marriage.
Others believe that it is even offensive to have to talk to a counselor or others about the problems inside their marriage. This is also understandable. Marriage is very personal – and marital problems are that much more personal. How on earth could a stranger really help?
Then, there are those who believe that counseling is the ‘be all and end all’. Those folks believe that counseling is the only resource that can help and is critically important if the marriage is to succeed.
Of course, all opinions are valid, but, we want to state clearly that we believe marriage counseling is indeed a resource that can help you and one that is worth pursuing.
First, in order to have success in counseling, you must find someone that both of you connect with. If one, or both, of you don’t feel comfortable being vulnerable in front of someone you just met, then it will never work. Continue reading “Do we really need counseling?”