Have you ever been in a discussion with your spouse where you are saying one thing that seems simple and to the point, and your spouse is saying something back that seems equally simple and to the point? All of the sudden you see your spouse’s attitude change instantly. And your reaction is: “WHAT? What did I say? What did I do?”
We just started working through the Love and Respect series which has been SO eye opening to us. Emerson Eggerichs is brilliant and hits the nail on the head! He explains that many times in conflict, the issue doesn’t seem to be the the issue. “What is the issue when the issue isn’t the issue?,” he says.
You think your spouse should understand you because your comments, on the surface, appear to be straightforward. Continue reading “Pink & blue sunglasses”